How Should We Lead Our Spouse? Leadership Starts at Home
In two weeks I marry the love of my life, Joanne. As I reflect on my new role as a husband, I want share some thoughts about leadership at home to the beautiful significant other in our lives.
What does it look like to be a person who has a powerful positive influence on his or her spouse? Here is one example. In 1921, at the age of 39, Franklin D. Roosevelt contracted polio while vacationing in Canada. It left him permanently paralyzed from the waist down. Many of those closest to him, including his mother, insisted he should leave behind the rigors of public life. But not his wife. Eleanor Roosevelt was a big motivator to Franklin to pull through his paralysis and become a great President who led the US to recover from the Great Depression and the tumultuous years of World War II.
Healthy leadership strengthens marriages.
When we think about leadership, many times we think of running an organization or a team, about making money, or advancing the ladder of success. But what about leading those closest to us? Those we love the most, those we spend our lives with…our spouses. How do we measure success when it comes to leading our spouse?
My success as a leader outside the home is measured by how well I serve and love others, how willing I am to give and sacrifice and dream with others, and how much I elevate and believe in others. My professional leadership is judged by my commitment to dig deep and carry others across the finish line, my capacity to cheer others on, and my dedication to ascend mountains together. I must do no less for my wife, the person I love and vow to spend the rest of my life with.
Healthy leadership rests on healthy relationships.
If there is one thing I know, it is that healthy leadership rests on healthy relationships. Healthy relationships are built intentionally; they don’t happen automatically. How do we develop healthy relationships? By intentionally understanding others, seeking to know ourselves, and being transparent to share our hearts. It means restraining our emotions, managing our thoughts, ruling our attitudes, and disciplining our words.
It is easy to neglect our most important relationships. We must not.
I pray that as you and I advance as leaders, we make it our number priority to lead well at home starting with that key person in our lives, our spouse.
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