Be Gentle

Everyone is struggling with something. Be gentle.

be gentle

It doesn’t matter how successful, wise, or content we may become, most of us are always struggling with something. It could be big or small. It could be silly or life altering. At any given point, you may find yourself wrestling with a life question, a relationship, or an illness. Perhaps a financial struggle, losing weight, or finding God. Maybe you are thinking about your death, worrying about your child, or aiming to finish your education. Perhaps you are striving to reach a lifelong dream, believe in yourself, or have a greater sense of self-worth. Or maybe you are agonizing over the passing of a parent or a loved one.

Life is hard—for everyone. Even the Bible says, “Our days may come to seventy years, or eighty, if our strength endures; yet the best of them are but trouble and sorrow.” (Psalm 90:10). If you follow the news, you must have heard of the recent abduction of the school girls in Nigeria. I can’t even imagine the agony their parents must be feeling. Some struggles carry far greater intensity and gravity than others.

Why am I saying this in an article about gentleness? Because chances are each person you will encounter today has something they are struggling with. Would you be gentle with them? They may be struggling quietly. They may have a smile on their face; they may have adapted and become strong. But their struggle is still there, gnawing on their thoughts and spirit.

My leader friend, be gentle. For you have the prerogative to frown or to smile, to yell or to uplift, to deflate or to empower, to discourage or to inspire. Which will you choose?

Remember that being gentle does not mean you must become like the proverbial grandma who greets you at the door with cookies. It does not mean that people will walk all over you, or that you cannot set boundaries. Nor does it mean that you are aimless and unaggressive in how you approach life.

Gentleness has strength at its core. To be gentle you have to absorb pain and radiate love, and that takes strength. Only the strong and wise can be gentle. 

There is nothing stronger than gentleness. - Abraham Lincoln

 

Our tendency as leaders if we are not careful is to become pushy. We push ourselves, and we want to push others. We often drive ourselves, and in turn drive others. But this drive can easily cross a line and become harshness and roughness, though we do it in the name of gaining progress and maintaining high standards.

Find a way to lead with kindness and dignity without lowering your standards. Every day decide to be gentle. Twitter_logo_blue And remember these words from Mother Teresa…

Be gentle to all and stern with yourself. - Mother Teresa

 

Your Friend,
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For Further Reading:

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4 Comments
  • Mary
    Posted at 06:47h, 12 May Reply

    Brilliant advice. Definitely agree that it takes strength of character to express gentleness. We all have a story, but expressing compassion towards one another closes the gap of our differences. Thank you for your inspirational advice. mary

    • Wes Saade
      Posted at 03:37h, 15 May Reply

      Thank you Mary for the comment! I like what you said that we all have a story… May we all gave grace with each other’s story!

  • Misty Gilbert
    Posted at 12:52h, 16 May Reply

    This was a great post! I appreciate the reminders as I know my determination to succeed at life sometimes has caused friction in relationships with they feel in my quest for excellence and progression interferes with the passion I have vs the vision they have.

    • Wes Saade
      Posted at 13:09h, 21 September Reply

      Thank you Misty for the comment! I totally agree that it is always a balancing act in relationships, insisting on results versus being patient with the person. Wes

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